When people ask me what it’s like to have a sibling with autism, I never know how to answer because there isn’t just one simple explanation. Being the sibling of someone with autism is a life filled with unexpected challenges, unforgettable moments, and lessons many people never have the chance to learn, but I wouldn’t change it.

Sometimes siblings like me are referred to as “glass children.” This term describes the sibling of someone with medical, behavioral, or developmental needs, not just autism. The metaphor doesn’t mean we’re fragile. Instead, it means people often “look right through us” because so much attention is focused on supporting our sibling with needs. There are times when I feel like a glass child, and there are times when I don’t. It’s easy for siblings to quietly put their own needs aside. Many of us learn to become independent at an early age because we don’t want to add more stress to our parents’ plates. I love my parents, and I know this isn’t something they do intentionally. They have given me the world, and I feel incredibly blessed to have them. While many siblings argue over little things, I wasn’t allowed to provoke my brother because it could lead to a much bigger situation. Growing up with a sibling who has autism has taught me patience in situations where others might become frustrated. I’ve learned that communication isn’t always about words. Sometimes it’s about understanding body language, respecting
boundaries, and recognizing that everyone experiences the world differently. These are lessons that can’t simply be taught, but they have to be lived.

Being my brother’s sibling has shaped who I am. It has taught me compassion, resilience, and unconditional love. Every sibling’s story is different because every person with autism is different. Some siblings become best friends, while others struggle to connect. Some families face daily challenges, while others find routines that work well. There is no “right” way to experience this journey.

If you’re the sibling of someone with autism, I want you to know that your feelings matter too. It’s okay to feel happy, tired, protective, overwhelmed, or joyful. Your experiences are valid, and your voice deserves to be heard.